With the rate of divorce in the United States increasing, couples need to make changes to protect their marriage. If your marriage has become stale, predictable, and boring, you need to make a conscious decision to revitalize it and reunite as a couple to thrive in your marriage.
While sex is only one piece of the marriage puzzle, it is an intimate connection between two people and creates a big difference between a couple and just friends. Here are five tips for breathing life into a stale marriage.
1. Start dating again
When people have been married for a while, and their time is filled with work, kids, and other obligations, they tend to stop dating. Going out together becomes one more expense they don’t need or a luxury; they think they can live without dates.
However, dating will keep you connected as a couple and not just as co-parents or partners. Dating will give you each chance to learn more about each other. While you may think you already know everything there is to know about your spouse, people change and continuing to know the person your spouse has become is critical to the success of your marriage.
2. Buy some sexy lingerie
Just because you’re older or maybe heavier than you were when you first got married doesn’t mean you can’t still be a sexy, confident queen. Buy some plus size lingerie that you feel comfortable and confident wearing, and put on a show for your partner.
Don’t tell your partner ahead of time that you bought lingerie; present yourself and watch their jaw drop. New lingerie is exciting; having a matching panty set is luxurious. Buy a new babydoll nightie or teddy and clear your calendar for the evening. If you want to increase the intensity and excitement, you can send your partner suggestive texts or photos before seeing each other.
3. Try a male enhancement supplement
As men age, their testosterone levels naturally decrease. Decreased testosterone can lead to a reduced sex drive and difficulty getting or maintaining an erection. Erectin is a male enhancement supplement made with natural ingredients designed to boost sex drive and performance. It is not a fast-acting remedy for erectile dysfunction. Instead, it is a daily supplement that works overtime to provide a consistently better experience. Leading Edge Health, the makers of Erectin, offer a full review of the product on their website with information on the ingredients, benefits, and responses from other customers.
4. Have an affair
Have an affair with each other. The appeal of an affair is the unknown. While your relationship may be stale or predictable, the affair is something new, spontaneous, and unpredictable. You can meet at a bar or hotel, wear costumes, role play, bring toys. Make the experience unpredictable for each other. Do something you have never done before or something you haven’t done together in years. Be selfish and tell each other what you want to be satisfied. Send each other suggestive or downright naughty texts leading up to the meeting. Make up sexy nicknames for each other.
5. Change up your routine
Part of what makes a marriage stale is the routine of everything. Some couples stop having sex, or its relegated to special occasions because they are too busy with their daily routine. Some couples unintentionally create a routine out of sex, and it is the same every time. Find ways to mix things up. Agree to both go home from work for lunch and have a middle of the day sex date. Instead of saving sex for the bedroom, do it in your laundry room or living room. Surprise each other in the shower.